FIRST-PERSON: What new widows need to know
A newly widowed person has many decisions to make, none of which should be made hastily. This isn’t the time to move, sell or buy a house or car, make investments with an inheritance, or think about remarriage. Give your emotions time to heal, and seek reliable counselors. Above all, don’t listen to those who insist that you must “act now, before the opportunity is lost.”
Let’s assume the will of your spouse has been read, probated and the executor/executrix has performed all necessary requirements. If you’ve received any insurance, disability benefits or inherited funds, you should put the money in a safe place for at least one year -– in government bonds, for example, or a savings account insured by the FDIC.
Even if your will was drawn up appropriately before your spouse died, it’s best to review and update it as soon as possible to be sure that it now prescribes the distribution of your current assets and names guardians for any minor children.
If your estate is sizeable, you should consult a competent estate-planning attorney. Be aware that surviving spouses can receive unlimited assets through inheritance without incurring any federal estate taxes.
Not all states use the same code related to so-called death taxes that is used by the federal government. If you have an attorney, ask about your state’s code. If you have no attorney, contact your state tax commissioner’s office for information.
You should apply for Social Security benefits as soon as possible after the death of your spouse.
Dependent survivors of Social Security participants are eligible to receive some financial benefits up to the age of 18 and perhaps longer if they are full-time students.
If your spouse was a veteran and had a service-related disability, you may qualify for benefits, even if the death of your spouse was not service-related. Contact the Department of Veterans Affairs for details.
Perhaps your spouse had a group health insurance plan at work. If so, be sure to inquire about steps to take if you want to keep the insurance. The so-called federal COBRA act requires employers to offer surviving dependents an option to maintain the insurance for 18 months. However, bear in mind that the insurance your spouse had could be expensive, and arrangements will still have to be made for any continuing health insurance coverage after the 18-month period ends.
The question of life insurance of any kind is relatively simple. If your spouse left sufficient provision for you and your family, you may need no further insurance. However, if adequate provision wasn’t made, perhaps you’ll want to supplement your provision for any minor children you may have through additional term insurance in the event of your untimely death.
Securing credit is important for older widows or widowers, because they may find they have special problems obtaining credit. When a spouse dies, the widow or widower is protected under the Equal Credit Opportunity Act (ECOA), and a creditor cannot automatically close or change the terms of a joint account solely because of the death of a spouse.
To ensure that the surviving spouse is protected, it is important to know what kind of credit accounts the couple has. There are three basic kinds of credit accounts: individual, joint and user accounts.
In some instances, a creditor will ask for a surviving spouse to update an application or to reapply. This can happen if the initial acceptance is based on all or part of the deceased’s income. After submitting an application or re-application, the creditor will determine whether it will extend credit. While an application is being considered, the creditor must let the surviving spouse use the account without new restrictions. The creditor must respond to the applicant in writing within 30 days.
Sometimes widows willingly turn over all decision making to someone else so they won’t have to think about these issues and under the circumstances, this is certainly understandable. However, except in rare instances, no one can deal with most of these issues but you.
Whenever you feel down or overwhelmed by the decisions you have to make, remember, “A father of the fatherless and a champion of widows is God in His holy dwelling” (Psalm 68:5). Pray for God’s guidance, and trust in His love for you during this difficult time of adjustment.
Once again, make no long-range financial decisions during the first year. And under no circumstances should you turn over finances to anyone to invest for you until you’ve recovered emotionally.
God’s Word encourages us to “be content with such things as you have. For He Himself has said, ‘I will never leave you nor forsake you’” (Hebrews 13:5).
Howard Dayton is CEO of Crown Financial Ministries. Dayton and the late Larry Burkett joined forces in 2000 when Crown Ministries, led by Dayton, merged with Christian Financial Concepts, led by Burkett. The new organization became Crown Financial Ministries, on the web at www.crown.org.